Are you experiencing your life coming from Love or Fear?

Do you believe that in your life right now you “do not have enough” – there’s not good health, not enough good food, not enough water, not enough energy, not enough money, and so on? …….

It is so easy to see the world with not enough – especially when you see the world news radiating at you from the television and newspapers showing poverty and world disasters – especially now with the world facing a challenge from the financial crisis affecting many people around the world.

If you follow the fear,  you are succumbing to the idea of scarcity thinking – now look at that word ‘scarcity’ and see the word ‘scare’ in there and then see the idea of how this word cultivates fear.

The opposite of this thinking is ‘abundance thinking’ But – If you look at the world right now you do not have a problem with either scarcity or abundance, in fact nearly every problem that you as an individual, or a nation or the planet face at this moment boils down to a distribution problem.

Some of you reading this are probably thinking right now – that’s right, I do not have enough – but there are others with plenty.

Perhaps there is the key – where is their mind-set – are they thinking, “I do not have enough” or are they thinking “I have plenty”?

It is so easy to drop into the action of fear – let’s take the word F-E-A-R and break it down to see what it means:-

Fantasised: the idea in your head is a fantasy

Experience: it is not an actual experience just a very vivid video playing   in your head of what you think is going to happen

Appears:     this video is so real that it appears …….

Real:           so real in fact that your adrenals start to produce the hormone adrenaline which it turns spikes your cortisol and then you are in an imagined state of fight and flight – but it is so real your

whole body is reacting – this is so damaging to your body putting extreme pressure on the adrenal glands, the pancreas, the liver and the intestinal organs. This creates an acid environment within the body (watch for my future blogs on acidity)

BUT NOTHING ACTUALLY HAPPENED – YOU created the whole scenario in Your heads!!

So what steps can you take to move away from this damaging FEAR and into the feeling of LOVE?

There are some simple steps to Come From Love, Even If It Doesn’t Seem to Make Any Sense to You Right Now:

Two simple steps to start to acknowledge what you do have, it’s easy to focus on what you don’t have – but what about the things you do HAVE?

• Every morning before rising be grateful for all the things you do have

• Before sleep be thankful for all the things you have been given and have been able to do over the day – In other words feel the gratitude – Become ‘thankful’

It is so important that you not only SAY “Thank you,” but you BECOME “Thank you”. That means to truly realize how precious and fragile this life really is.

You often don’t realize what you have until it’s gone.

Don’t wait for things to be gone before recognizing what you have and what you should be grateful for.

‘At one time when I was in this state of fear I suddenly realised what I had here and the fragility of life on planet Earth’ – think about it you are on a ball that is spinning at 1038 Mph at the equator, around a ball of fire in a universe that is full of debris that could collide with our planet at any time – I think that is pretty fragile don’t you?

So as Buddha said – be thankful for every moment – feel the gratitude and the love for all we have right now.

Thich Nhat Hanh wrote, “If the only prayer you ever pray is ‘Thank you,’ it will be enough.”

Discover your true Value.

The two steps above deal with your Inner Game of Enough (Love). These last two deal with your Outer Game.

If you want more of the thing called money for example, you have to first discover the Value you add to others. Because money is only given when Value is perceived; you have to have an exchange.

What is the main Value you love to give?

That’s your first clue as to how you’re going to make more money doing what you love.

‘My mantra is - to do what makes your heart sing’.

We have altered the word love to mean many things – in many relationships love means – “I will love you if ………….” – we see most problems arise in relationships when the other person does not fit in with the perceptions of the others boundaries and realities – suddenly there is no love.

Let others share your values

We’re often told, “Do what you love and the abundance will follow.” But if that were true, everyone would be paid for lying on the beach!

Here’s the way it REALLY works:

• You start by doing what you love and getting really good at it.

• You show people how, why, and that they will benefit from you doing what you love – then, and only then, does the abundance follow.

That second bit is called sharing with others our experiences and knowledge. And it’s the foundation of the Outer Game.

That’s why it’s important to apply what you have learnt so you can show other people how, and why we all benefit when you share your gifts.

Think about it – who would you do business with?

Someone who just wanted your money?  Or someone who was interested in what you wanted and needed and then worked with you to find a solution? And if that happened for you would you go back to them? And would you recommend them? And would their income improve?

I think the answer is yes to all those

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

This whole theme can be applied to many issues in life – so while it may be easy to blame the boss, the government, the banks, it’s not a great place to be in “not enough” its certainly not what I would call fun!!

And yes it might take a little more effort to come from having enough (Love), but do it anyway. Work at it for a while and see how your life changes from fear to love.

Oh, and by the way – don’t watch the news or read the newspapers they are only cultivating fear and scarcity (scare-city? Interesting when you break this word down) and I don’t know about you but I would rather not live there!!

See you in the place that has enough (love) for us all and is without fear.

Best wishes

Peter Gray

17^th June 2011